Tag: Time Management

Balancing School and Mentoring

By Leo Crespo

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As far as balancing my classes while being a peer mentor, this has got to be my toughest semester to date. Biology class takes the bulk of my free time. I have to take a lecture class that lasts for two hours and ends at 4 PM, and a lab that ends at the same time. It’s also quite frustrating to wake up four days in a row at 9 AM. The only time I have extra free time to do my homework is Tuesday and Thursday. It could be a burden at times. I’m trying to think positively so I don’t lose my sanity. Biology is my biggest challenge, but I’m trying to stay resilient. The lecture is a bit boring, but I do enjoy attending the lab portion since it’s more hands on.

I enjoy my Philosophy class. The professor is really quirky, but instantly likable. He makes us question our existence in society, which is the reason I chose this class. As for my journalism, I’m learning a lot. The professor is like a mentor of mine. We’re close in age so I could relate to him. He’s a huge gamer and wrestling fan, but is able to provide an ideal life for himself. He has a wife and a child that was just born. I look up to him because he’s responsible, but doesn’t change who he is.

The peer mentoring class is just fine. The professor really cares about her students and does her best to enforce them to learn. Some of the class is a little directionless, but a little push is all they need. The professor is very relatable, but at the same time gets her point across. I want the opportunity to connect with the students more, but I don’t want to smother them either. I help whenever I can, but I’ll never get in the way of the professor.

Midterms were a rough time for me. Not the tests themselves, but studying for them. Thank goodness, I was able to get good grades on all of them, including English 40, Biology and Philosophy. I made it my mission to study for them each when I had the free time. In order to get through the day, I just set a routine for myself every day so I could manage my time well. I keep a clear conscience so I could get through the day. Instead of overwhelming myself, I take it one day at a time. I just want to be the best person I could be and just evolve. I may be a peer mentor, but I’m still learning myself.

 

Leo Crespo is a Peer Mentor in the Opening Doors Learning Communities at Kingsborough Community College, where he is studying as a Journalism major.

It’s OK to Say No

By Daniel E. Lozano

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In my personal experience being a student, a tutor, and now a peer mentor, I often have to deal with a lot of things on my plate. This usually leads into a grand balancing act where I have to prioritize different tasks that were tossed my way. So let me be frank: it’s okay to say no.

Now, saying no is a hard thing to do. If you’re a person who likes to help others like myself, saying no almost feels like you’re letting them down. But fear not, that’s not always the case. From the perspective of a student, you sometimes have to say no because you simply can’t do everything. Not being able to do everything is a big ditch we fall in frequently because we typically want to be able to help as many people as we can. But let’s be realistic, a student already has a lot on their plate to begin with. Balancing projects, grades, homework and more are already a lot to deal with. But when someone comes by to ask, “Could you do this for me?” naturally they consider it giving a non-answer, “Maybe.”

From the perspective as a tutor, saying no is key in teaching students. There’s a method to my madness and it’s quite simple. When tutoring, a frequent question I would get was “Can you answer this for me?” or “Can you write my paper?” and my favorite statement “Just do it for me.”

The answer is no. No, because I find it morally wrong to be doing someone else’s work. That and it’s destroying the point of the tutor. The tutor is supposed to help the student better understand the material. I did this by leading my students to the answer. “I won’t tell you the answer because you won’t learn. But, I can help you find the answer and tell you if it’s right,” was something I had to explain to my students. So saying no as a tutor helps students learn to not be dependent on you for information.

Lastly, as a Peer Mentor, scheduling is key, and saying no is something that is required. Helping peers is a great thing and helping out students in my class is always refreshing. I like how after class some students feel they want to ask me questions either about campus or about being a peer mentor. But the most important thing about being a peer mentor besides being there for your students, is time management. Time management is one of the topics we cover in the Student Development course that I mentor, and it was interesting to see how the class reacted to different methods of time management. Some said they kept journals to keep dates written, others set alarms on their phones. Heck, some even wrote on their hands their daily tasks. As for myself, I write notes to myself and put them in places I know I will check later to keep myself updated. Another method I like to use is making lists. On these lists I write what I have to do and the time frame I need to do it. This is how I keep my schedule balanced. However much like being a student or a tutor, you have to say no sometimes.

Since I’m a student and a mentor my schedule is very blocked and any free time I used to de-stress. As a result, in my free time people usually try to throw extra work my way. Now I usually don’t mind helping my friends by revising their papers or explaining concepts to them, but there are times where I just have to say no. Because my plates are getting too heavy and this waiter isn’t going to break some dishes.

The moral of the story is self-explanatory. It’s okay to say no. Sure, sometimes that’s not an option but in times that you can choose, you can say no if you’re already over loaded. You don’t want to burn the candle at both ends because then you burn yourself out in turn. Stress is something that is a serious thing that we try to keep in check. In short, don’t feel bad if you can’t help someone. It’s not the end of the world.

Daniel E. Lozano is a second semester freshman majoring in Media and a Peer Mentor for the Opening Doors Learning Communities at Kingsborough Community College.