Tag: Mentoring

Reflecting on Growth

By Daniel E. Lozano

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At the end of a semester I like to sit back and look back at how my semester went. But when looking back this time I realized I saw something interesting: I saw growth. Not just in the class I worked with, but in myself as well.

I saw the group grow over the whole semester by starting with smaller interactions between each other, asking a few questions at a time and gradually break the silence in the room. At the start everyone was nervous and shy, much like I was when I started. At first, when they met me, they weren’t quite sure how to approach me. They saw me on par with the professor I was working with. It felt weird at first, but to break the ice I decided to start asking questions that freshmen ask frequently. I wanted to convey that I’m a student as well and no questions are bad questions.

As the semester went on, I saw everyone slowly warm up. They started sitting in more tightly knit groups, then eventually just started to work as an entire class. It was a great feeling seeing that happen.

Then I realized, I also grew a bit too. I was a bit nervous just like them, but I was also trying to do my best. I thought about the stories the other peer mentors have shared with me and thought about what I learned from them. Personally, standing in front of a group of students wasn’t always my forte’, which is kind of ironic that I’m a peer mentor who stands at the front helping the professor conduct class.

I learned how to work through my own personal flaw by doing something I enjoy: helping people. My first few classes with the group at the beginning of the semester were interesting because much like they were, I was nervous. But as time went on I started to become feel more comfortable. Students were approaching me after class asking questions about facilities as well as saying, “Hey!” whenever they would spot me on campus. It’s a great feeling knowing that they feel I’m someone they could approach to ask questions and chat with.

So looking back at last semester was helpful because not only did I see growth in the class, I also saw it in myself and with that I was able to take a positive attitude into this semester’s course where I have been more proactive with students and glad to have office hours in which if need be, they could visit me to discuss class or even have a friendly chat.

For that I’m glad to be a peer mentor and I look forward to seeing how this semester’s class grows as well.

 

Daniel E. Lozano is beginning his second semester as a Peer Mentor for the Opening Doors Learning Communities at Kingsborough Community College.

A Small Thing For Us Can Make a Big Difference For Them

By Justyna Kulig

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When I got the opportunity to become a peer mentor, I didn’t know what this really is, what to expect, and how interesting and challenging it could be. Peer mentors work within Student Development classes, assisting a professor with connecting freshmen to the campus and helping them to make a good start in their new environment.

When I had my SD class in the first semester I did not have a peer mentor, so it was not easy to imagine how this was going to look like. For me, as a shy person who does not like to speak up much (and for whom English is not my first language) it made it ever harder to make up my mind to become a peer mentor. I remember sitting in a Phi Theta Kappa orientation thinking about it, looking at the mentoring requirements, when some stranger pointed out at the paper and said: “Do it!” I didn’t have an opportunity to talk with the person at that time to ask  for some more information, but somehow it convinced me and I decided to join and challenge myself.

At the beginning, especially before the first and second Student Development class, I was very stressed. I could not even sleep at night thinking about it. However, each next class was a little bit more comfortable, but still I need much more time to feel confident in being a peer mentor.

I am very happy I got along with some of my students. In my opinion, the key to being a successful peer mentor is to become a friends with those peers and build the trust. That’s why I like to meet with them in the cafeteria and eat lunch, or meet after classes and take a bus or train together, so we have time to get to know each other and so they can feel we are on the same page.

Someone may think that peer mentoring is not too helpful for students, but I believe that we have the power to make a positive impact in their freshman experience. Sometimes, seemingly a small thing for us can make a big difference for them. Inviting and encouraging students to join the school events can make that difference, because they will be able to meet new students, make new friends, and as result feel more connected to the college.

Encouraging tutoring is a great idea too. As a person who had very intensive biology class last semester, I know how difficult it was to keep up, and by working within the Student Development class linked with biology I am glad I was able to encourage a few students to take advantage of biology tutoring, because it is very helpful and makes the subject easier to pass with a good grade. That is very important in pursuing further the medical career.

Often we do not think about those seemingly small things that we do, and often we don’t even know how big an impact they may have on others. I remember how lost I felt when I was about to start college, because a few days before the beginning I changed my major and I was looking for someone who could register me for my new classes. I met someone who really discouraged me from changing my classes without even looking to see if there was any possible way to register me for classes that I really needed. It was sad, because I did not want to spend time in classes that perhaps were not going towards my degree. Fortunately, I did not give up and right after I found another person that was completely opposite, the person with a big smile that really cared about  my situation and took the time to help me.

This is another example of how something small can make a big difference. It impacted me so much and I am very thankful I met that person. When I came first day to school, I was sure and calm that I was on the right path and classes were chosen properly to my new major. I learned a lot from that experience, and as a peer mentor I always keep that in mind to try my best, take time to listen with empathy other’s people problems and issues. Everything that they want to talk about, I make sure that if I don’t know how to help, I can guide to someone who will do it for sure. I try to be the good resource that others seek.

 

Justyna Kulig is a first semester Peer Mentor in the Opening Doors Learning Communities at Kingsborough Community College.

It’s OK to Say No

By Daniel E. Lozano

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In my personal experience being a student, a tutor, and now a peer mentor, I often have to deal with a lot of things on my plate. This usually leads into a grand balancing act where I have to prioritize different tasks that were tossed my way. So let me be frank: it’s okay to say no.

Now, saying no is a hard thing to do. If you’re a person who likes to help others like myself, saying no almost feels like you’re letting them down. But fear not, that’s not always the case. From the perspective of a student, you sometimes have to say no because you simply can’t do everything. Not being able to do everything is a big ditch we fall in frequently because we typically want to be able to help as many people as we can. But let’s be realistic, a student already has a lot on their plate to begin with. Balancing projects, grades, homework and more are already a lot to deal with. But when someone comes by to ask, “Could you do this for me?” naturally they consider it giving a non-answer, “Maybe.”

From the perspective as a tutor, saying no is key in teaching students. There’s a method to my madness and it’s quite simple. When tutoring, a frequent question I would get was “Can you answer this for me?” or “Can you write my paper?” and my favorite statement “Just do it for me.”

The answer is no. No, because I find it morally wrong to be doing someone else’s work. That and it’s destroying the point of the tutor. The tutor is supposed to help the student better understand the material. I did this by leading my students to the answer. “I won’t tell you the answer because you won’t learn. But, I can help you find the answer and tell you if it’s right,” was something I had to explain to my students. So saying no as a tutor helps students learn to not be dependent on you for information.

Lastly, as a Peer Mentor, scheduling is key, and saying no is something that is required. Helping peers is a great thing and helping out students in my class is always refreshing. I like how after class some students feel they want to ask me questions either about campus or about being a peer mentor. But the most important thing about being a peer mentor besides being there for your students, is time management. Time management is one of the topics we cover in the Student Development course that I mentor, and it was interesting to see how the class reacted to different methods of time management. Some said they kept journals to keep dates written, others set alarms on their phones. Heck, some even wrote on their hands their daily tasks. As for myself, I write notes to myself and put them in places I know I will check later to keep myself updated. Another method I like to use is making lists. On these lists I write what I have to do and the time frame I need to do it. This is how I keep my schedule balanced. However much like being a student or a tutor, you have to say no sometimes.

Since I’m a student and a mentor my schedule is very blocked and any free time I used to de-stress. As a result, in my free time people usually try to throw extra work my way. Now I usually don’t mind helping my friends by revising their papers or explaining concepts to them, but there are times where I just have to say no. Because my plates are getting too heavy and this waiter isn’t going to break some dishes.

The moral of the story is self-explanatory. It’s okay to say no. Sure, sometimes that’s not an option but in times that you can choose, you can say no if you’re already over loaded. You don’t want to burn the candle at both ends because then you burn yourself out in turn. Stress is something that is a serious thing that we try to keep in check. In short, don’t feel bad if you can’t help someone. It’s not the end of the world.

Daniel E. Lozano is a second semester freshman majoring in Media and a Peer Mentor for the Opening Doors Learning Communities at Kingsborough Community College.

Mentoring Can Be a Step to Being Someone Better

By Fernando Gomez

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Being a mentor is very beneficial for myself and the students who are around me who need my help (especially those who are scared to ask.) In this case, this story is something that you can see how the smallest thing can make a huge difference for someone else.

Some time ago, I was going through a new group of students for my second semester as a mentor. It was a good group of freshman and some were automatically involved in my plans to help them thrive in a college environment for the first time. Others… not so much.

Throughout the group, I noticed one student who caught my interest. He was a freshmen with a positive personality, but I sensed that he was troubled at the same time. He was hanging out with the wrong group of people, though it wasn’t too far from the point to where he could use my guidance and help.

One day I spoke to him to see how he was doing in his class as well as how he was enjoying his time in campus so far. We began talking and I found out some things that confirmed my suspicions. He was struggling in a class that I had to go through as well, though more times that I had liked. He had more struggles that I had imagined or better yet, that I didn’t think of.

I told him of my struggles and my hurdles that I had to deal with, and afterwards I started to explain to him that those struggles weren’t a mountain of a hurdle, they are something that he could confront. He had to focus on overcoming the hurdles if he wanted to get to fulfill his goals and aspirations.

But one thing that I was glad that he asked me right after our conversation was, “As my mentor, can you help me be better than what I am now?” I responded, “I had a feeling you were going to say that. I would be honored to.”

Since that day, he got better and thrived in his classes, so much that he passed with flying colors. After the semester, he became my protege and one of my first co-mentors, and I’m happy to say that he has changed so much since that semester. He’s done well, and he has a bigger future ahead of him. Not only as a mentor, but as a member of the Student Government Business Council. He is an example of how much you can better yourself to become who you want to be and how you want others to see you.
Fernando Gomez is the Senior Peer Mentor in the Opening Doors Learning Communities at Kingsborough Community College.